Mentoring the Gifted
“A Mentor sees things in you that you may not see in yourself”
The term Mentoring comes from Greek mythology. When Odysseus went journeying, he asked his trusted friend, Mentor, to care for and guide his son, Telemarchus, into adulthood.
There have been many studies done on the benefits of mentoring the gifted. As we read the biographies of people who have overcome great obstacles to learning and achievement, there is invariably a mentor, parent, teacher, friend or relative who looked beyond the disability – physical, emotional, social or economic – and said “you can”.
Gifted children may benefit from mentoring for many reasons:
Buddy Systems in School
This may be older children buddying younger ones within primary school or within secondary school. This can be beneficial for a younger child who has difficulty settling into school or interacting with his own age peers and will give the older one a sense of responsibility. A knock on effect would be an increased sense of understanding and community which would lessen the likelihood of bullying and be a resource for the younger child should bullying occur. (It may be easier to speak to a schoolmate rather than a teacher.)
Secondary school pupils visiting primary school to help with projects: This can tap into the older student’s love of “giving something back” and could be as simple as reading with younger kids. It provides the younger child with a “cool” role model and the older student a sense of responsibility and self-worth.
According to the Special Education Support Service (SESS.ie): If relationships with peers are difficult or stressful, the existence of a mentor can be very beneficial for defusing fraught situations.
Teacher student mentoring: This can be done through a formal mentoring programme run by the school or can be informal, as when a teacher takes an interest in a particular student and helps them to advance in their chosen field of expertise. Not only will this give the student a means of exploring ideas in greater depth than provided for by the school curriculum, but it gives them a sense of belonging, appreciation and self worth and a role model from which to learn other values. The teacher in question may not necessarily be one of the child’s regular teachers, but someone with a common interest. T
Formal arrangements with Universities for secondary school students to work with undergraduates or staff within the university.
This allows a student to gain real life experience of a particular career in business, a profession or the arts. It lets a student see what a particular career is really like rather than what they imagine it might be like. This may be short term to aid in career planning, or long term to help a gifted student or young adult develop a career.
Other Forms of Mentoring:
May be as simple as a child developing a relationship with a friend, relative or neighbour who happens to have an interest or hobby that the child finds fascinating.
For girls, professional women who come to the school on career day or a specific course for gifted girls can be beneficial. Mentoring has been shown to be very important in the early career of gifted girls.
Another related area is that of volunteering. Even from a very young age, gifted children may worry passionately about issues such as war, poverty, starvation, dishonesty and cruelty. They are idealists with a strong sense of moral and social justice. They come to realise that few adults seem as concerned and may feel powerless to influence any change. Ultimately, this may result in existential depression. Volunteer work can be a great outlet for such children, as most people involved in social causes are idealists and a gifted child will likely feel that someone else truly understands their feelings and that their ideals are shared by others. They can join other idealists in ways that can impact the world around them.
As they enter adolescence, it becomes more difficult for a parent to fill the role of mentor. This is a time when our children need to find their own identity, to break away from their parents and to become independent individuals. In order to allow this to happen, it may not always be appropriate for parents to be their children’s mentor, beyond continuing to be a support and a role model. These children may also have surpassed their parents and teachers in terms of knowledge in their area of interest.
It would be a very worthwhile project for us, as an advocacy group, to look into the idea of setting up a co-ordinated mentoring resource. We could develop an information pack to advise schools on how to foster mentoring. It is a very cheap way of supporting gifted kids. We could also look into developing contacts with selected businesses and universities for more formal programmes which might be mutually beneficial. There are many articles, papers and guidelines advising on how to set up such programmes and the pitfalls to be avoided.
A Love for Learning: Motivation and the Gifted Child by Whitney and Hirsch
Counseling the Gifted and Talented by Linda Silverman
Making Great Kids Greater: Easing the Burden of Being Gifted
by Dorothy Sisk
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